I know that this is one of the most exciting and scary times of your lives right now. I understand the amount of trust that you are being asked to place into me, a total stranger, to love, take care of, nurture, and grow your baby. You are stronger than you may realize in having that trust to give, and I promise you that I will not break that trust. I will do everything in my power to ensure that you have a wonderful pregnancy experience and a healthy baby to take home at the end of it.
I am a GSx2 and both journeys were amazing. I would love to do it again!
Being a gestational surrogate has been such an important part of my life. The joy I get from seeing a couple become parents for the first/second/third time is immeasurable. I love being pregnant, and I have easy pregnancies. For me, I look at it as we all have ways that we can help others. This is one way that I am able to help others, and it is so rewarding for me.
What initially made me consider surrogacy is my sister. She had miscarriages due to her diabetes and an incompetent cervix. I offered to carry for her. She was able to have 2 children in the end, thanks to heavy monitoring and cerclages, but the thought never left me. Although she didn’t need me, I knew that there were so many others who might. So, when I knew I was done having kids, I decided to move forward. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Describe your feelings surrounding our surrogacy experiences:
My 2 surrogacy journeys were among the most amazing and rewarding experiences of my life, second only to giving birth to my own son. I was blessed to have amazing IPs who were very involved and developed a great relationship with them.
Who will support you emotionally throughout and after your Surrogacy experience?
My mom is my biggest cheerleader. She was my support person through my 2 journeys and will be again. She lives 1.2 miles away from me.
Please describe the “ideal” couple/individual for whom you would like to be a Surrogate:
My ideal couple would be a traditional Christian couple who would like to transfer 1 embryo at a time. My ideal couple would not terminate a pregnancy unless my life were in imminent danger. They will be open and honest with me, even if they think the truth might hurt my feelings, and they will receive the same from me. Mutual respect is so important to me! I do not believe in forcing anyone to have a relationship they do not want, but if the relationship grows, I would enjoy being a continuing part of their life in whatever way they are comfortable with, but cannot set that as a requirement because it’s not fair to them.
I want a couple who want to be as involved as they are reasonably able, and have good communication skills.
Are there any circumstances which would cause you to NOT want to work with a couple or individual?
If the couple would want to terminate a pregnancy for whatever reason. My only exception would be if my life were in imminent danger. At that point, it is life preservation.
Please tell us about yourself! Describe your personality, character, interests, and hobbies
I like to think that I am a fun person. I love to talk, and I am an open book. I joke that Sarcasm is my true second language, and Spanish is my third. Although I do love sarcasm, I am actually a very caring person. I am very honest. I am a whopping yellow belt in taekwondo, but am proud to say that I earned both of those belts while pregnant LOL! My son is a Sr. Brown belt. Unfortunately, the school closed, so neither of us take classes anymore. Aside from taekwondo, I have not found a sport that I enjoy participating in, but am thinking about taking up yoga. I hear it’s good for stretching and sanity. 😀 I am an avid baseball mom though…
I am not big on going out, and when I do, it’s with my son. While at home, I like to sew and crochet. I am quite excited because I just got my new sewing desk so I can start to set up my sewing room!
How much contact would you like with your Intended Parents throughout the pregnancy?
I would like as much communication as feels comfortable with my IPs. I do not believe in forcing contact, but during the pregnancy, I would hope that they would at least want to check in with me once a week or so to see how things are going. I am open to as much contact as my IPs want as well, so if they wanted to talk/text/message every day to check in/chat, that is great too! I want my IPs to have the best experience that they can have…this is their pregnancy!
Would you be comfortable with the intended Parents being in the delivery room when their baby (ies) is/are born?
Yes. For my last 2 journeys, my IM was the one who caught her baby each time. IF cut the cord both times. This is their pregnancy, their labor, their delivery. I want them to be there to experience it.
That said, if they don’t want to be that close to the action, I’m okay with that too…I want them to be comfortable and to know that they are welcome to be where they are comfortable, even catching their baby if the care provider would allow.